But being mentally resilient that will propel you through the hard times.

How will you get through such a crisis? Life is not for the faint of heart and it's not easy to thrive when bad things happen.

Everyone handles these things differently and some if that is out of your control – it's genetic. Will you become depressed, bitter, angry? These feelings can hit you so hard you are barely able to function.  Or will you grit your teeth and push through to the other side? Either way, if you make it through, you've survived. You've won.

But to find moments of joy in the darkest of times, you need to tap into your mental resilience. This helps not only you but those around you. And to bounce back after these events and live your life again, mental resilience is, again, the key.

For some people, it comes naturally. Maybe they've been through things that are way worse in the past. Perhaps they are just wired that way. Some folks have something or someone that helps them be stronger, either for them or because of them. For others, it's their faith.

Building mental resilience is something you should work on well before hard times strike. The way you deal with the ups and downs of life while it's good can carry you through the darkness. Below are some ways to increase your philosophy of mental resilience.

Words matter.

Think about the way you describe things. Are you a glass-half-full or glass-half-empty person? If you had a fender bender, how would you explain it to your friends?

"I can't have nice things. I just got into a wreck and now my car is trashed. Why does this stuff always happen to me?"

"Wow, I was just in a fender bender and got out with only a couple of dents in my car. I am so lucky! It could have been so much worse! I'm so glad I have good insurance!"

This is the case with all sorts of things in your life. Do you hate your job, counting the seconds until it's time to leave? Or can you find some happiness even in an unpleasant work situation, with goofy pens, a coworker with whom you really enjoy joking around, or interacting pleasantly with customers?

Your subconscious brain hears what you say. If it happens often enough, these negative statements become core beliefs.

Being able to find the bright side is a skill that not everyone possesses. But it's a skill you can learn and the way you word things really matters. Try to catch yourself when you word things negatively and reword them in a more positive way. It will become a habit that reduces stress and sets you up for a more resilient mental attitude.

Be kind to others.

Believe it or not, compassion for others can help you build mental resilience. Doing good makes you feel good. Of course, you shouldn't do things for others if your heart isn't in it just to get a buzz of endorphins – that won't work. But actions from the heart can help you feel better about your own situation.